[Nataly92]

Hello everyone, I've been reading a lot of posts here since I got Luffy and I just joined because I really needed some advice.

I have hand raised Luffy since he was one month and also trained him. The problem I've been having for the last 4 months that is driving me crazy is that he is too energetic for me (he is almost 9 months now). I have even found a new home for him, but I am still thinking if I am making the right choice.

My main problems are that whenever I leave the room or when he can't see me, he starts screaming and the second is that he never stops moving, except for grooming. He also chews many things, even my wooden floor, even though I have chewing games and paper, branches and other things for him to chew, and I have to watch him all the time to see whether he bites something dangerous or where he will poop or where I should clean the feathers' dust he leaves. I normally had him out of the cage all the time I was at home, but recently I stopped, since he once bit me seriously I snapped.
My husband works for the navy and he is at home only one week per month, so I there isn't anyone else home except me. My husband loves him and is really sad that I want to give him away, but I feel very oppressed from having Luffy and I am not sure that I love him deeply. About his screaming I have tried many things but nothing worked. For two months I tried talking to him while I was leaving the room, or telling him to come with me (he sometimes does follow). The next month I tried not making any noise. Then the breeder I got him from told me to put a picture of me next to where he usually is. And lastly, I got really angry and started throwing my slipper somewhere close to him to scare him, but I really felt bad.
If I put him in his cage while I am home, he screams or he nags all the time and he is on the door going left, right left, right. I even hate him sometimes, even though he is so cute, social and happy. But I fear that I'll make him miserable. I have some other minor problems with him too. But he even interupts my love life, whether he is screaming because I am not where he can see me or because he is inside the cage, or because he flies on my husband, and it's awkward. I have to say that the desicion of getting him was mainly mine and not my husband's.
One thing I haven't tried and recently thought is: if I got him a female cockatiel, would he be calmer and at least stop screaming? Or will I double my troubles?

Please, any advice is appreciated. Any information you need, please ask. Thanks!

 

[Jo Hess]

Hello everyone, I've been reading a lot of posts here since I got Luffy and I just joined because I really needed some advice.

I have hand raised Luffy since he was one month and also trained him. The problem I've been having for the last 4 months that is driving me crazy is that he is too energetic for me (he is almost 9 months now). I have even found a new home for him, but I am still thinking if I am making the right choice.

My main problems are that whenever I leave the room or when he can't see me, he starts screaming and the second is that he never stops moving, except for grooming. He also chews many things, even my wooden floor, even though I have chewing games and paper, branches and other things for him to chew, and I have to watch him all the time to see whether he bites something dangerous or where he will poop or where I should clean the feathers' dust he leaves. I normally had him out of the cage all the time I was at home, but recently I stopped, since he once bit me seriously I snapped.
My husband works for the navy and he is at home only one week per month, so I there isn't anyone else home except me. My husband loves him and is really sad that I want to give him away, but I feel very oppressed from having Luffy and I am not sure that I love him deeply. About his screaming I have tried many things but nothing worked. For two months I tried talking to him while I was leaving the room, or telling him to come with me (he sometimes does follow). The next month I tried not making any noise. Then the breeder I got him from told me to put a picture of me next to where he usually is. And lastly, I got really angry and started throwing my slipper somewhere close to him to scare him, but I really felt bad.
If I put him in his cage while I am home, he screams or he nags all the time and he is on the door going left, right left, right. I even hate him sometimes, even though he is so cute, social and happy. But I fear that I'll make him miserable. I have some other minor problems with him too. But he even interupts my love life, whether he is screaming because I am not where he can see me or because he is inside the cage, or because he flies on my husband, and it's awkward. I have to say that the desicion of getting him was mainly mine and not my husband's.
One thing I haven't tried and recently thought is: if I got him a female cockatiel, would he be calmer and at least stop screaming? Or will I double my troubles?

Please, any advice is appreciated. Any information you need, please ask. Thanks!

He is a baby and will get over that with age. My advice would be for you to give him away to a dedicated cockatiel lover who understands the nature of our tiels unless you are willing to perservere. He will get over this with age. They will chew what the want to chew, not always what you give them. They all have different characteristics. I've had 2 out of 6 cockatiels who've chewed the **** out of the ceiling cornices at considerable expense to me. Others don't care. One chewed side wall, but just for awhile.
They absolutely need to chew to keep their beaks in order, like sharpen as they do in the wild. If you want to keep him, give him a safe branch to chew in the cage or out of it but don't change it. In my 20 yrs with these beautiful birds I've learnt a lot. No two are the same.
On saying this, it is a slow, long learning curve. Expect some destruction as they will, and are, all different. In other words, what you give them they may not like. You will figure it out along with him. I've had/have 6 tame tiels over time. A point to remember is that they don't like change in their environment. Like kind of in/on the spectrum. Don't change their cage out differently as they don't like it.
Consider it a compliment to you that they call when you leave or come back home. That works well. They will know the sound of your car returning and everything about you.
My current baby boy (1 now) is needy and will sit on my seat or pillow where he knows me to be for awhile, or until I come home. That is love from a tiel to the parrent. Accept that you are loved. They won't die from fret normally. They just love you.

 

[Nataly92]

He is a baby and will get over that with age. My advice would be for you to give him away to a dedicated cockatiel lover who understands the nature of our tiels unless you are willing to perservere. He will get over this with age. They will chew what the want to chew, not always what you give them. They all have different characteristics. I've had 2 out of 6 cockatiels who've chewed the **** out of the ceiling cornices at considerable expense to me. Others don't care. One chewed side wall, but just for awhile.
They absolutely need to chew to keep their beaks in order, like sharpen as they do in the wild. If you want to keep him, give him a safe branch to chew in the cage or out of it but don't change it. In my 20 yrs with these beautiful birds I've learnt a lot. No two are the same.
On saying this, it is a slow, long learning curve. Expect some destruction as they will, and are, all different. In other words, what you give them they may not like. You will figure it out along with him. I've had/have 6 tame tiels over time. A point to remember is that they don't like change in their environment. Like kind of in/on the spectrum. Don't change their cage out differently as they don't like it.
Consider it a compliment to you that they call when you leave or come back home. That works well. They will know the sound of your car returning and everything about you.
My current baby boy (1 now) is needy and will sit on my seat or pillow where he knows me to be for awhile, or until I come home. That is love from a tiel to the parrent. Accept that you are loved. They won't die from fret normally. They just love you.

Thank you very much for your response!
Well, he doesn't scream if I leave the room but if he is left alone in the room. Even if I have friends at my home that he sees for the first time, if I leave the room, he is ok. The problem is if everyone leaves the room. He also loves to go on everyone new he sees, he is very sociable. Even if I take him, he flies right away on the new person. And when I put him into the cage, he won't stop nagging and moves like a maniac.
If I got a female cockatiel, would it help with the screaming? Will it make him more relaxed if all people leave the room?

 

[Jo Hess]

As said, they hate change, especially to their cage (safe place). You can only bring in/change out 1 thing at a time like a toy, their spectrum thing. It is very normal that tiels yell out when you leave the room. My past few would either follow me around the house or shriek like **** and fly around from room to room to find me. That is a loving tiel.
My current tame doesn't like going near other people, perhaps because I rarely have anyone in my home, and won't dare to come down to the "the other, scary end of house". That is his thing..very wary. My past tames loved everyone after warily checking them out for half an hour to make sure they won't hurt them.
Your baby will be a learning baby for at least first 18 months of life. Oh and like children, they rarely sleep though the day. When he does you'll no doubt wonder why they can sleep so much through the day. When they sleep they wreck nothing. When awake always looking for something.
They commonly poop around every 10 minutes or so. Expect it. Let it dry as so much easier to clean. I found out the hard way through years of experience.
If you love him, keep him. If all too hard make sure you send him on to a tiel lover. One thing I can tell you is that they are all very different, No two exactly the same 🥰

 

[Nataly92]

As said, they hate change, especially to their cage (safe place). You can only bring in/change out 1 thing at a time like a toy, their spectrum thing. It is very normal that tiels yell out when you leave the room. My past few would either follow me around the house or shriek like **** and fly around from room to room to find me. That is a loving tiel.
My current tame doesn't like going near other people, perhaps because I rarely have anyone in my home, and won't dare to come down to the "the other, scary end of house". That is his thing..very wary. My past tames loved everyone after warily checking them out for half an hour to make sure they won't hurt them.
Your baby will be a learning baby for at least first 18 months of life. Oh and like children, they rarely sleep though the day. When he does you'll no doubt wonder why they can sleep so much through the day. When they sleep they wreck nothing. When awake always looking for something.
They commonly poop around every 10 minutes or so. Expect it. Let it dry as so much easier to clean. I found out the hard way through years of experience.
If you love him, keep him. If all too hard make sure you send him on to a tiel lover. One thing I can tell you is that they are all very different, No two exactly the same 🥰

Again, thank you very much for the info and advice. I will give him away tomorrow to a bird loving person that already has a young female cockatiel, whom I found through the pet shop that I adopted Luffy. We already had our birds meet once and I think they are going to be fine. Also, I'll keep in touch and visit Luffy every month or so. I am going through a bad psychological situation at the time and I don't want to make Luffy miserable while he is so young, sociable and happy. He already has started to avoid me sometimes during the day. I can't even take care of myself.
Hope he'll be happy.
Thanks and best wishes.

 

[Jo Hess]

Again, thank you very much for the info and advice. I will give him away tomorrow to a bird loving person that already has a young female cockatiel, whom I found through the pet shop that I adopted Luffy. We already had our birds meet once and I think they are going to be fine. Also, I'll keep in touch and visit Luffy every month or so. I am going through a bad psychological situation at the time and I don't want to make Luffy miserable while he is so young, sociable and happy. He already has started to avoid me sometimes during the day. I can't even take care of myself.
Hope he'll be happy.
Thanks and best wishes.

I'm sorry to hear that. I have suffered major depression and PTSD, and found that my tame tiel was my saving grace. Loved me unconditionally and knew when I was at my lowest and just nuzzled my chin to let me know he was there for me. Even the night my mother died. He just knew and was so in touch with my ups and downs.

 

[Nataly92]

I'm sorry to hear that. I have suffered major depression and PTSD, and found that my tame tiel was my saving grace. Loved me unconditionally and knew when I was at my lowest and just nuzzled my chin to let me know he was there for me. Even the night my mother died. He just knew and was so in touch with my ups and downs.

I also have problems with depression and I am seeing a psycologist for this. Truth be told is that Luffy understands when I am sad and sings for me, or tries to be close. My problem is that my dog that I grew up with, died almost 5 ago and since then I have a problem connecting with animals. Luffy was my first try since my dog. I can't seem to love him even though he cares, I just push him away. And I just feel soooo bad about this.
I understand how your tiel saved you through your hard time, as my dog saved me from suicide at my teens. I have to work on my feelings.
And thank you again for sharing, you are a kind person.

 

[Jo Hess]

You're welcome. Look after yourself as you are the first savior of you. Perhaps a smart cockatiel is not the right pet for you at this time. Keep striving to be the best you can be. The number one person for you is you and you are worth having a good life. You are so young. Learn to dare to be you <3

 

[Beak]

Hello everyone, I've been reading a lot of posts here since I got Luffy and I just joined because I really needed some advice.

I have hand raised Luffy since he was one month and also trained him. The problem I've been having for the last 4 months that is driving me crazy is that he is too energetic for me (he is almost 9 months now). I have even found a new home for him, but I am still thinking if I am making the right choice.

My main problems are that whenever I leave the room or when he can't see me, he starts screaming and the second is that he never stops moving, except for grooming. He also chews many things, even my wooden floor, even though I have chewing games and paper, branches and other things for him to chew, and I have to watch him all the time to see whether he bites something dangerous or where he will poop or where I should clean the feathers' dust he leaves. I normally had him out of the cage all the time I was at home, but recently I stopped, since he once bit me seriously I snapped.
My husband works for the navy and he is at home only one week per month, so I there isn't anyone else home except me. My husband loves him and is really sad that I want to give him away, but I feel very oppressed from having Luffy and I am not sure that I love him deeply. About his screaming I have tried many things but nothing worked. For two months I tried talking to him while I was leaving the room, or telling him to come with me (he sometimes does follow). The next month I tried not making any noise. Then the breeder I got him from told me to put a picture of me next to where he usually is. And lastly, I got really angry and started throwing my slipper somewhere close to him to scare him, but I really felt bad.
If I put him in his cage while I am home, he screams or he nags all the time and he is on the door going left, right left, right. I even hate him sometimes, even though he is so cute, social and happy. But I fear that I'll make him miserable. I have some other minor problems with him too. But he even interupts my love life, whether he is screaming because I am not where he can see me or because he is inside the cage, or because he flies on my husband, and it's awkward. I have to say that the desicion of getting him was mainly mine and not my husband's.
One thing I haven't tried and recently thought is: if I got him a female cockatiel, would he be calmer and at least stop screaming? Or will I double my troubles?

Please, any advice is appreciated. Any information you need, please ask. Thanks!

 

[Beak]

I think getting him a female would really be beneficial to you both. As you know you don’t want to just get another bird and throw it into his domain or cage. Keep her in a small cage next to his cage. Then let him out and he may climb on her cage and start to court her. After a while and they seem like they are good friends then you can leave them out in the same room but do not put her into his cage because that is his territory. After they get to know each other you may leave her cage door open and he may go in or she may come out. Once they except each other outside of their territory Thank should work out very well. Good luck you are the center of attraction for your Cocateil and he will be jealous of any other creature that comes between you and him. That’s why you need to put her in a cage in the room and let nature run its course. Good luck to you

 

[Beak]

Hello everyone, I've been reading a lot of posts here since I got Luffy and I just joined because I really needed some advice.

I have hand raised Luffy since he was one month and also trained him. The problem I've been having for the last 4 months that is driving me crazy is that he is too energetic for me (he is almost 9 months now). I have even found a new home for him, but I am still thinking if I am making the right choice.

My main problems are that whenever I leave the room or when he can't see me, he starts screaming and the second is that he never stops moving, except for grooming. He also chews many things, even my wooden floor, even though I have chewing games and paper, branches and other things for him to chew, and I have to watch him all the time to see whether he bites something dangerous or where he will poop or where I should clean the feathers' dust he leaves. I normally had him out of the cage all the time I was at home, but recently I stopped, since he once bit me seriously I snapped.
My husband works for the navy and he is at home only one week per month, so I there isn't anyone else home except me. My husband loves him and is really sad that I want to give him away, but I feel very oppressed from having Luffy and I am not sure that I love him deeply. About his screaming I have tried many things but nothing worked. For two months I tried talking to him while I was leaving the room, or telling him to come with me (he sometimes does follow). The next month I tried not making any noise. Then the breeder I got him from told me to put a picture of me next to where he usually is. And lastly, I got really angry and started throwing my slipper somewhere close to him to scare him, but I really felt bad.
If I put him in his cage while I am home, he screams or he nags all the time and he is on the door going left, right left, right. I even hate him sometimes, even though he is so cute, social and happy. But I fear that I'll make him miserable. I have some other minor problems with him too. But he even interupts my love life, whether he is screaming because I am not where he can see me or because he is inside the cage, or because he flies on my husband, and it's awkward. I have to say that the desicion of getting him was mainly mine and not my husband's.
One thing I haven't tried and recently thought is: if I got him a female cockatiel, would he be calmer and at least stop screaming? Or will I double my troubles?

Please, any advice is appreciated. Any information you need, please ask. Thanks!

 

[Beak]

when you throw a shoe at the bird when he screaming you’re playing into his game. He’s getting your attention and you’re reacting. So the screaming is working for him. You should do nothing when he screams. Some people recommend to turn the light out when the bird screams but pay no more attention to it. Other people put the bird in a cage when it screams and walk away. If you give the bird attention when it screams it is trained you.
If you get him a female, which I would recommend; make sure you have it in a separate cage and leave him in his cage. They were both go to the side of the cage nearest the other bird as a rule and start to communicate. Never ever put the female in his cage that is his territory. Since he let him out after a week or so of the two cages next to each other you can let him out of the cage and he will probably go to the females cage. After a whileThey were start to communicate and get closer. If they start to preen each other through the cage and they don’t nip at each other; Open his cage door and close the door to the room and don’t watch them and he’ll probably go to her cage she can go to the center of the cage if she does not want his attention. After a month or so if they seem to getting along fine you can open her cage door and leave him in his cage. See if she flies to his cage when she has access to it. If after all this they don’t nip at each other or anything then you can let them both in the same room with both cages open. Nature we’re by then have run its course and they were probably be friends and possibly Mates.
Remember he could be very protective of his mate or vice versa. The screaming should stop once you have the bird in the room with him and you’re not in the room. Good luck enjoy your birds

 

[Nataly92]

when you throw a shoe at the bird when he screaming you’re playing into his game. He’s getting your attention and you’re reacting. So the screaming is working for him. You should do nothing when he screams. Some people recommend to turn the light out when the bird screams but pay no more attention to it. Other people put the bird in a cage when it screams and walk away. If you give the bird attention when it screams it is trained you.
If you get him a female, which I would recommend; make sure you have it in a separate cage and leave him in his cage. They were both go to the side of the cage nearest the other bird as a rule and start to communicate. Never ever put the female in his cage that is his territory. Since he let him out after a week or so of the two cages next to each other you can let him out of the cage and he will probably go to the females cage. After a whileThey were start to communicate and get closer. If they start to preen each other through the cage and they don’t nip at each other; Open his cage door and close the door to the room and don’t watch them and he’ll probably go to her cage she can go to the center of the cage if she does not want his attention. After a month or so if they seem to getting along fine you can open her cage door and leave him in his cage. See if she flies to his cage when she has access to it. If after all this they don’t nip at each other or anything then you can let them both in the same room with both cages open. Nature we’re by then have run its course and they were probably be friends and possibly Mates.
Remember he could be very protective of his mate or vice versa. The screaming should stop once you have the bird in the room with him and you’re not in the room. Good luck enjoy your birds

Throwing my slipper was the last thing I tried. But the second thing I tried for a little more than a month was paying him no attention, but nothing changed.
Anyways, before 2 days I gave him to a person I met through the pet shop I bought Luffy, who has a female cockatiel and was searching for a male. It isn't permanent if I want to, he is flexible. In a week he will leave for a trip for 4 days and I'll take the birds. I am thinking if I can take the birds whenever he leaves so that we share the burden and the love. It is a work in progress right now.
Luffy and Love are all day outside the cage and they seem to be doing ok. Not bad, not well, just ok. But Love starts to mimic some actions of Luffy. Love is 14 months old and was adopted 6 months ago and she is generally a melancholic bird, she had almost no company (even humans) and was never out of the cage. So I think Luffy will help her.